This is the time of year where I take out one of my favorite T’s. The saying on it provides a very gentle reminder that during a time of year which focuses on relationships with others, to take time to love yourself. Understandably, that can be easier said than done. Regardless of religion, faith, preferences or choices- nearly everyone, from the time they’re born to the time they pass, has a desire to be known, loved and understood. A lot of pressure is placed on others by us, to fulfil that void. Realistically, that person can never make us feel completely full and we may end up feeling even more lonely when they aren’t able to fulfill all of those expectations. And we make the mistake again, looking for another who might check those boxes. However, instead of trying to find that in another person, I encourage you to look inward. I heard a saying last week from a mentor that I really appreciated: “focus on becoming someone, rather than on being with someone.” Regardless if you’re in a relationship or you’re single, if you take steps to love yourself and do things that are aligned with the person you want to be, you will also be happier in relationship and more desirable to others. When looking for the perfect partner or even new friend, everyone has ‘the list.’ It may be a subconscious one in your mind or written in a journal but it’s there. It’s healthy to have values in looking for that special someone, however, instead of focusing on a list of who you want in a partner or companion, create a list of who you want to become and what you want to accomplish in your life. Fulfilling your own hopes and dreams means you are taking responsibility for your happiness. Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first and have a Happy Valentine’s Day!